The character often finds it difficult to notice that the flaws they strongly dislike in others, are ones that their own character carries. This causes many to judge others instead of recognizing their own issues.
For example, after breaking up with her boyfriend, Angela spends a lot of time shopping. She loves going from store to store and finding her perfect outfits. One day, while out shopping, Angela spots Karisma, a girl she used to go to high school with. While catching up, Karisma confides in Angela that she’s been feeling heartbroken since her brother left the country. Later that evening Angela calls her mom on the phone and tells her that she ran into Karisma. She explains to her mom that Karisma is obviously shopping as a way to compensate for her sad life. Unfortunately, Angela completely misses that Karisma was reflecting for her and instead decides to judge her.
In order to dissolve a reflection, a person must face and accept the issue being reflected to them.