At times, a person may see another going through a lesson. With good intentions, they might try to help them and resolve the issue for them.
By doing this, they are not allowing the person to experience or benefit from their lesson. The consequence is that the lesson will keep repeating until the individual reaches a solution on their own.
For example, Deborah is always resolving financial issues for her son. This results in her son becoming incapable of being independent. Independence may be crucial to getting her son through a rough place at some point in his life. Unaware of the lesson, Deborah feels compelled to solve issues for him, which ensures that the lesson repeats. She looks at him like he’s stagnant and keeps needing to be bailed out. She doesn’t realize that the next stage of his life is on hold until he passes this lesson, and the role she’s inadvertently playing in delaying his progress.